being a new muslimah girl 🧕🏻🌸
A lot of sisters have asked for this information, so here is a tiny outline…
On your journey to becoming a real Muslimah girl, there are two main transformations to keep in mind: 1) Total Feminisation, and 2) Islamification.
This may be accomplished through the following steps, with some overlap between them. Remember, this is a long-term, life-changing process accomplished one day at a time, inshallah.
1) Accept that this is who you are, without shame. Muslim Men are superior to you, and the best thing you can do is to embrace your natural inferiority. In fact, fall in love with the process of becoming less; Savor each step.
2) Seek out and collect inspirational pictures and captions about your new Muslimah life. It’s okay to get obsessed with this. If it helps, at this point, such as photos of Makkah, Masjid Nabawi and Al-Aqsa also Haj celebration, Ramadan and daily quran verses.
3) Meet other Muslimah girls on social media and chat rooms. Share your experiences and build a supportive sisterhood network. We’re all in this together, and need each other’s love and care.
4) Learn basic Arabic words and phrases, such as "Alhamdulillah", “InshaAllah", “Uhkti", and “Assalamu'alaikum” - and begin to use them. Take care: You will notice a strong urge to say these words in your everyday life, as they become a part of you - even with people who don’t yet know you are a Muslimah gurl at heart!.
5) Shop for traditional, modest clothing, including a hijab, niqab, abaya, burka, burkini, etc. Experiment to find what feels right and looks good for you. Develop your own “fashion sense” as a new Muslimah.
6) Discover your Arabic name like "Ayesha", "Zaynab", "Khadija", "Fatima" or "Hafsah" and rebrand your online presence with this name. Another, more experienced Muslimah sister may help you with this or, when the time comes, your Muslim Imam (husband) may rename you when you get married.
7) Begin the path of conversion to Islam, all praise to Allah (SWT)! In many ways, you will find this is the most wonderful change in your identity, and the foundation of all that will follow. At the very least at this point, commit yourself to learning more about Islam, read quran and about islamic fiqih for women.
8) HRT and Gender Confirmation surgery. This feels big - and it is - but it’s simply the outward expression of what has already occurred deeply within you, and which you embrace about yourself. (Note: Here Muslimah girls part company with our sissy sisters. No judgements, as they are on their own equally valid path, too).
9) Avoid meet Men privately :) Here it helps to practice orgasm denial, so that you are perpetually unavailable for the sexual needs of these superior Men. Eventually, find a good Muslim Imam who will be firm but also provide for you. When you become his wife, let him mark you as “his queen” forever by his islamic education. From this point onward, live to Allah by obey Him and your husband.
10) Immerse yourself in the glories of Islamic culture, such as: Join a Mosque … Wear Hijab in public full time … Pray and read the Quran daily … If possible, move to an Islamic neighborhood in your area, or ideally to an Islamic country. Above all, be open to wherever your husband leads you.
Ameen! 🤲🧕🏻